Who Am I? In the Workplace Amid Covid 19

Frantic Employees 

   Many of us are frantic and almost desperate when it comes to employment amid Covid 19. We have become a lagoon of dispensable beings in the eyes of many employers. Social distancing has caused management to opt into work from home platforms, downsizing, and a reduction in salaries. The companies who have been able to hire are cautious to offer permanent employment, or are significantly reducing the pay rate and amount of new hires. 

Subsequently, these actions have effected not just earning potential for many workers, but also job security.  Specifically the retail and hospitality industry laborers have been hit the hardest.  In contrast, the medical sector, e-commerce, delivery services, and the grocery industries have seen a surge in business.  

 Despite the growing concerns about our professional futures, we should refuse to be cornered into settling for less. I have always prided myself for my tenacity, but after an amiss encounter I began to question my position in the job market.  Below is an account of  my recent experience that ensued due to my Covid 19 lay off.  This is my first hand account on how working in a declining job market and accepting indigent terms can become unrewarding, and literally decompose your spirit!  

 The dream Job

After being discouraged by the lack of job prospects following my job lay off, I reluctantly accepted an administrative job assignment that I was overqualified for at a semi-profitable financial company on a temporary to permanent basis.   The recruiter Kate pitched it as a dream job.  She rambled on that I'd be entering a friendly small family business that was obdurately surviving despite recent events.  Endless opportunities would be available due to the small basin of talent at the establishment.  Kate also insisted that my work day would be full of excitement, perks, and a progressive culture.  Her pitch had me dashing to sign on the dotted line!

  Good Old Nepotism 

    A few months at my post and I discovered that the excitement was actually idleness, the perks were reserved for the nepotistic pool. What was guaranteed was that I'd become penalized for stepping on the wrong cousins' toes!  Every meeting I attended, every memo received, and every interaction with the people upstairs resulted in a feeling of ineptness, powerlessness, agitation, because my input was discouraged.  Stares in the employee lounge, whispers in the community lunch zone, and abrupt responses from management alerted me that my go getter attitude was uninvited.  I was to stay in my place and let the big folks stir the pot!   Oh and the progressive culture full of opportunities; I soon discovered that I wouldn't be entitled to securing those opportunities unless I was fortunate enough to attract a family member at the establishment to wed.  

                                                     My New Reality 

Consequently my enthusiasm turned to indifference when I realized that I had to keep showing up everyday, and of course my daily 6am alarm clock remined me of my new reality.  I started to ponder on how I'd relinquish myself from the trap I walked into. 

                                                      The Mirage

A turning point occurred one quiet Tuesday morning during the end of my six month tenure on the job,  I had an outer body experience:

 A mirage opened up aloft my desk.  My body began to float amid the opening.  I was suspended into air looking down at my cramped desk,  glancing at my co-workers whose faces were cemented to their computer screens in a trance like state, then I turned to the cleaning staff  whom was methodically dusting desks while simultaneously collecting the trash. A birds eye view allowed me to snoop into an operation manager's office;  where I was able to witness a mid-level agent sighing in her seat while she was being reprimanded for her substandard performance. 

What each subject in my illusion had in common was a discontent for their routines, because they felt caged in the structure that accommodated hundreds of their peers. Chronic nine to fivers who had become numb, bored, and frustrated.  Their ill feelings would one day lead to grievance, resentment, and before long apathy.

                                                      Women in the Workforce

  By September 2020, 865,000 women exited the workforce for many reasons resulting from the pandemic (Forbes Advisor).   In opposition and prior to the outbreak, in 2019 fifty five percent of the female population were gainfully employed (www.statista.com).  The robust employment in 2019 was partly due to the establishment of the technology age, which had catapulted women into the workforce.    

Notwithstanding our current crisis in order for families to survive and efficiently run their households two incomes are still a necessary component.  So the question I asked myself was: Who am I today in the workplace?  This question resonated in my mind for some time.  I thought to myself: Well outside of the office I am a mom, a daughter, a sister, and a romantic mate. These are the titles that I have become accustomed to.  What I really couldn't articulate was who I was in the workplace, which has become a consequence of the post Covid 19 devastation. My identity, like many other women and men has simply become obscure. 

                                                          Self Discovery

Preceding 2020 I had acted in posts that I sincerely enjoyed.  At those posts I wore a plethora of hats and my value permeated amongst my colleagues.  Those accolades all came to a standstill abruptly due to the disruption of the plague of 2020. 

While at the financial company,  It dawned on me that my career would continue to plummet like a whirlpool during a tornado if I didn't do something about it.  The consequence of not acting would result in me embodying a zombie like state like my co-workers in the mirage.  The solution to my dilemna was to rise above my circumstance and act swiftly.  I had to confront myself and find the answer to the question Who am I in the workplace today?  

                                                          My Homework

My homework consisted of the inception of me defining what I wanted out of  a job, considering my skills, experience, natural talents, and than later researching industries that supported my work ethics.  The professional characteristics I possess: tech savvy, creative/artistic, goal oriented, diligent, efficient,  outgoing, and a team player.  The industries whom could use my talents: e-commerce-sales/distribution, pharmaceuticals, medical support, supply chain industry, and e-learning.

Evaluating these qualities against the new job market made me aware that they were all useful attributes.  The engines that would fuel my career path!  So I set off on my journey. I discovered the answer to WHO I AM was inside of me. Doing my homework allowed me to dig deep enough to see where I belonged in the workplace today, and not to be dismayed. I would no longer accept what others perceived as my DREAM JOB.   I was about to embark on my true match!.....End

For my Readers: If you are marooned in a job that you dislike, don't waste another moment being resentful.  Get out your notepad and make your list. Be honest about your skill set. Obtain the skills you need to get the type of job you really want. DON'T LET YOUR AGE BE A FACTOR.  We are sometimes the best version of ourselves due to our age and wisdom! Good luck on your search!!

P.S. I am currently enrolled in an online course to increase my skill level for better job marketability!!

Aniyah AKA The MommySavior

Appreciate every moment by giving thanks every day!

Why Black women are Underpaid

 

Lowballed at work

As I sat in a hefty office chair opposite the privileged thirty something executive, I wondered why she sat in that seat instead of myself.  I figured she probably worked hard through college and earned it, however my gut told me that she hadn't paid her dues.  As I listened to the words come out of her mouth I knew that she didn't share my experiences, therefore she couldn't relate. 

Her seat was prompt up high as she put her hands on the cherry wood desk, which luminated her freshly manicured nails that housed her 1.5 brilliant diamond ring.  Alongside her chair was her Hermes tote, which carried the keys to her Benz.  Yes she had a privileged life, but was oblivious to her reality. 

My reality was that of an arduous three hour round trip daily commute to the affluent city where my employment was based. I was forced to live on the outskirts of the mainland due to increased housing cost. My practicality just couldn't justify putting a significant portion of my income on rent. My plans were to  strategically secure a mortgage on a big beautiful home someday soon. 

Future Plans

Unfortunately my plans came to a halt when she apathetically stated "WE AREN'T GIVING RISES OR PROMOTIONS AT THIS TIME". That was easy for her to digest because she already had a plush lifestyle. My goals were dependent on our regular annual reviews, which included rises.  After leaving her office and digging a little; I discovered that not only was I not going to receive my increase, but that I was amongst a group whom fallen on the lower income tier in the company! 

Bitter Revelation 

Dispute my diligence during my three years of employment, I was paid exceedingly less than my male counterparts. Ironically, some of whom I trained during their onboarding process! I asked myself how this could have happened to me?  I thought: "I'm smart, skilled with a college degree. This should put me in the upper tier of salaries". 

The real question is why America feels justified with this biased type of employment practice that has existed for ages!

Being a black woman in America means that we encompass many layers, assumptions, and misconceptions, and marginalization.  Many of our white companions can't handle our candor on the black experience, and some won't understand our plight. We haven't volunteered for this role. We were born into it. Wearing the hat will mean that we will be subjected to America's conjectures of  who we are.   

With these conclusions,  America will draw up expectations for us:

-The type of neighborhood we are accustomed to

-The type of car we will drive

-The type of food we should eat 

-The type of mate we should choose

-The number of kids we will have

***The type of job and income we should settle for ***

All of the above decisions will be made for us (based on stereotypes); unless we elect to break the status quo.  It will be up to us if we want to subscribe to what scraps America is willing to give us!

Here are some statistics for us to ponder:

-Black women make up 7 percent of the population in the US workforce. 

-Black women are paid 38 percent less than white men

-White women make 21 percent more than black women

-80 percent of black women are sole or co-primary breadwinners in their households

Looking Ahead

These staggering statistics probably don't draw up alarms for any of us. These are well known statistics. Something that we have been facing for decades.  This is why I fell victim to the salary disparity.  None of us are immune to this. 

America, the country our ancestors were delivered to under severe protest.  America, the land that promises freedom, democracy, and equality had fallen short on their promise, and as a result my afro-sisters and I have suffered.  

It's perplexing how a land with such wealth and resources falls short on providing for it's own citizens.  Should we attribute that the gap in income is due to capitalism, competition, or simply greed?  My vote is that it is the latter. 

There is plenty of abundance in our land, it's time for us to get a bigger piece of the pie.  We can do this by knowing our worth.  I suggest doing our homework before we accept a job offer:

-Knowing our market value

-Negotiating our salary

-Thinking ahead: will this income support my lifestyle?  

-What type of salary do I need to make?

-What type of job/career is a good match for me?

-What courses can I take to update my skills?

-How can I start my own business? 

These are vital questions that we must challenge ourselves with.  Despite our efforts, we may not see the top of the glass ceiling, but at least we will have a clearer view!!!!

Note: Take an honest evaluation of yourself.  If you want more than be willing to put in more. Hone in on your natural talents by researching how to formulate a career based on what you already have.  Be willing to take a refresher course to update your skills, go back to college and finish your degree, or change your original major.  Remember, it's never too late.   Age is just a number!!.. 

"Leave your mark on this earth.. Let them know you were here by making an impact on the lives around you by whatever means!" Aniyah

Anita Moffett... AKA Aniyah- The Mommy Savior!

 My path and journey is endless!

P.S. Please leave your comments so that I can continue to get feedback and bring you more REAL stories!

Health segment: The MommySavoir

Must know techniques to alleviate stress! Go Ahead!!!

Welcome back moms! So many of us are trying to keep our heads above water during this challenging year. Unfortunately many of us don't have the tools or aren't equipped for the hurdles, so we find ourselves sinking and gasping for air!  Here are a few ventilators that may prove to be life savers!

5 Tips for coping with stress:

#1) Eat and drink sensibly- 

We have been told to watch our diet for weight and stress control, but we haven't been told how.  The how is in us retraining our brains when it comes to our meals. Most of the time we eat from our subconscious or out of habit.  We go into autopilot when selecting foods. What if I told you that we could actually train ourselves to make healthier food choices? Yes there is a psychology behind our eating habits!

Re-programing the brain is all it takes to getting on the fast track of healthy eating.          

Statements like: Today I will eat.... I will no longer consume....My healthy meal plan today is... This type of affirmation can set the tone and help you control your daily intake! So Go Ahead and try this!

#2) Assert Yourself-

  Most moms are nurturers and pleasers, therefore they commit to assignments that may be overwhelming. A great tactic for countering this is to take a critical look at that good old To-Do list and make sure it's not overloaded.  Once you have accessed what isn't feasible, then it's time to say No to these items.   Go ahead say it "Nooo", it actually is relieving! So Go Ahead and try this!

#3) Eliminate Bad Habits-

Bad habits are the culprits of so many of our stress levels.  Habits like not getting enough sleep, exercise, or eating properly. Take a stand and start each day by stating what behavior you want to eliminate and the new habits you'd like to replace this with. Breaking these habits can be a task, but fortunately it only takes 21 days to break a habit and construct a new one! So Go Ahead and try this!

#4) Self Inventory-

Another factor that most aren't aware of is that a general lack of self-care is also a bad habit.  Self-care meaning we take care of the issues in our lives by facing them. When was the last time that you really asked yourself questions like:  what is bothering me?, how can I get more satisfaction out of my life?, what do I need to do differently?, what strengths do I have to elevate myself?  Taking stock of some of the issues ailing us and working through them could give us our own therapy session. 

Note: when your pondering this, try to be candid with your responses. An honest approach can get you the answers you need, and could lead to a more fulfilling existence. So Go Ahead and try this!

#5) Pampering-

Self-care comes in various forms. Another component of it is seen when we pamper ourselves. This is a popular anecdote for relieving stress, however it doesn't work unless it is done!

-Indulge in a  bubble bath

-Spurge on that manicure and pedicure once in a while

-Treat yourself to a Swedish or Deep Tissue Massage

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These five stress relievers can prove beneficial if practiced everyday. Beginning your day with simple affirmations can be the start of something wonderful!

Source: Speaking of Women's Health

                                                                                                                Aniyah- The MommySavior

  How to Look Slimmer after your holiday binging:

Hello Moms! I'm sure most of you may have overeaten during the Thanksgiving holiday.  It's OK. go ahead and admit it. No judging. I just hope that you forgave yourselves as well! LOL....I definitely allowed myself to indulge. 

Guess what, I have good news!!! You can still have a flattering silhouette regardless of the binge eating that may have caused some unpleasant bloating. I'd like to share a few apparel concepts that will help you still look your best, and appear more slender. You may have heard of some of these suggestions, but if I have cultivated you with at least one new trick then I have done my job!!! 

Flattering tops:

Geometric prints- Geometric prints take the eye away from the body's shape or size.

Vertical lines or stripes- Go with vertical stripes to create an elongated torso. Stripes are also perfect on the side line of your pants. 

Aline cuts- Like Aline skirts, Aline shaped tops camouflage unforgiving areas, such as the tummy, waist line and our backs.

Flutter sleeves- Opt. for a flutter sleeve if you have full or broad arms.

V-neck- Show off your neck line with a V-neck to narrow your upper body.

Complimentary Bottoms/Pants:

 Ankle Length- Create a sleek look with an ankle length pant that can be worn with almost any shoe. Add a pair of pumps and you are already 10 pounds thinner!

Try Chicos Ankle Length jeans (pricing starts @ $49-$109)

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Boot cut- A boot cut is great for any body type. Allowing your weight to be distributed evenly and gives you a balanced silhouette!

Try Kohls Boot Cut w/embellished and Tummy control jeans (pricing starts @ $19.99)

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High waist skinny Pant- Instant height is what you will get out of a high waist pant! Pair with heels and your towering over all of the others:)

Try the plus sized Jayden colored skinny jeans @ Macys (pricing starts @ $22)

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If nothing else works to mask your undesirable areas try layering with a vest, slouchy sweater, or a princess or A-line cut jacket/blazer. 

Then of course wearing shapers doesn't hurt as well! :)

I hope these tricks are as helpful for you as they have been for me! 

Enjoy!

Aniyah,

"Everyday I intend to grow a little stronger, wiser and kinder"

 

Health Trends 2020 Feeling Good!!!!

Hello moms: Most of us have been facing a challenging year, but we are still responsible for our careers, childrearing, cooking, cleaning, and maintaining ourselves regardless of the obstacles. 

But what can we do to feel better while we grind at our everyday tasks? 

Well, we can set aside a little time to invest in our physical health! The more care we put into our bodies is the better we will feel. 

 Now, why do we usually feel better? One reason is because we are taking pride in being proactive with our well-being, our planned food choices assist in clear mental focus, and our work-out routine allows our bodies to release those invaluable endorphins! 

So instead of slouching through the day, we can exude energy with simple meal planning. When we deposit nutritious foods into our system our bodies respond almost immediately by giving us a euphoric sensation. The best way for us to continue this high state of being is to create a regular toolbox, which of course includes the customary high proteins, fibers, and greens, and staying up to date on food progressions. 

According to Today.com, below is a list of foods trending this year as people are becoming more health conscious. 

New healthy foods and new food trends for 2020 

1. Sweet potato is the new cauliflower. 

2. Fish is going faux. 

3. Plant-based yogurt, ice cream and creamers galore. 

4. Mocktails over cocktails. 

5. Snacks to help you sleep.

6. Blended burgers and mighty meats. 

7. Plant-based butters are back. 

8. Fruit flours and potent powders. 

Food for thought: We usually experience food cravings due to a lack of certain nutrients. This causes us to continue to eat to fulfill this need. Eating well balanced meals and implementing supplements or potent smoothies will eradicate any deficiencies. 

Aniyah’s tip: Breakfast foods are generally high in carbs and fat. Most snack food is easy to grab, making it convenient, however the caveat is that it is processed, loaded with bad chemicals that the body does not recognized. As a solution, I keep a makeshift list of healthy foods I can eat for breakfast and snacking. This list allows me to choose whole grain breads, fruit and oatmeal for breakfast, and snack on nuts and yogurt throughout the day.

That's all for today's health segment!

Be Well: Aniyah 

"Today will be that day" 

Quick Tip: Plaid Anyone?

Aniyah's Quick Tips: If you aren't in plaid this fall you aren't a true fashionista! Trending this fall are plaid blazers. The blazers are gaining popularity due to their versatility. Pump up your work day with this plaid ensemble and a skinny pant, or set the tone for a casual chic look when you pair it with denim! Whichever look you choose you are sure to make a statement in plaid!!!!!!

"Use your gifts to spread joy into the world" Aniyah

Chic fall looks

Chic Looks for Fall 2020 Hello moms, It's been challenging for us during the year of 2020, but we are still finding ways to stay motivated. The next time you are able to get out, try some of these chic styles to brighten your mood. Here are some occasions you can wear these looks for: -A quick stroll by the promenade -A car ride for sight seeing -A stroll at the park -lunch with a friend -Trip to the mall

Enjoy!!!!! May everyday fulfill you as it it were your last! Aniyah